Friday, September 8, 2017

Friday FUA: Goals

This week Hayden's Centrality therapist had him share with me his goal for the year. Apparently he came up with this all on his own. He said his goal is to be more mature. I almost started crying. This kid SO wants to be more like everyone else his age. He not only knows what the word mature means, but when asked, of all the things he could focus on this year, he used that word to define what he wants for himself.

He tries so hard and I'm amazed every day by the new things that he is able to do for himself. His focus is better. His mood is better. His attention toward others is much improved. My goal for him to one day be independent is still very much within reach and it makes me so happy and so proud.

This summer I was in the laundry room. I asked Hayden to come help me with someone. He came right away. I asked him to go to his closet and bring me some hangers. He went right there, came right back with the hangers, and handed them to me, saying "give me back the extras when you're done."  What?  You care about the extras?  

A few weeks back he and I were at a restaurant together alone. I went to use the restroom and when I came back the server came to me and said, "your son wanted me to let you know that he was in the restroom." What?? He found a stranger (safe adult) and asked them to tell his mom where he was so I wouldn't worry?

These are just two examples of how far he has come and the major breakthroughs we are seeing these past few months.

Then today at his school one of his aides told me that she had considered going to half time at work this year but one of the main reasons she didn't was because she wanted to continue to work with Hayden. She said he's so hard on himself and yet he's one of the smartest kids in the class. He makes her laugh and he's so witty. He's a joy to work with.

MY kid made her want to keep working with kids with special needs.

I don't know how I got so lucky as to be given this child from God but I am so grateful to be his Mommy.

Or Mom as my 'mature' son would say.

Beyond blessed.


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Friday, September 1, 2017

Time Timer

This is one of the best purchases we've ever made. It's called a Time Timer. You set the red section for how much time to do a task. It slowly moves and gets smaller until there's no red left. When time is up there's a quick alarm as well.

We use it for how much time there is until bedtime, or until we have to leave in the morning, or how much screen time the kids get. The kids can set it themselves for the amount of time we give them, and they (usually) hop right up when the time is done. It helps my son with autism to plan and pace himself, or speed up to get something that he wants. Like I said, well worth the money. We have two. Here is an amazon link. The little size is better because it fits on a desk and doesn't take up as much room.

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Tuesday, August 29, 2017

First weeks of school

He has had really good days at school with only a few minor behaviors since school started!

His sister's crying has been a major trigger for him in the past. The other day she kept crying repeatedly (maybe 5 separate occasions one night) and he yelled on the last two times. He wanted to run off to his room but we really needed to finish his homework so he could have his reward (screen time) before bed. So I encouraged him to get through the work and had her leave the area. He did so well remaining calm and getting his work done despite his frustration!

Yesterday he went to the orthodontist. He was very nervous about whether he would need x-rays and kept verbalizing that he was nervous. During the visit he let the orthodontist touch his mouth even though it made him uncomfortable. He did a great job through the exam.  So proud of how far he has come!

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Sunday, August 20, 2017

Flashback: August 2010

Some people who know Hayden now but did not know him before assume that he was always "high functioning." This is far from the case. A typical 4 year old should be able to tell you all kinds of things about their day. Mine had only a few words. After starting ABA therapy and Biomed, his words started to come out.


Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Taking a break

Hayden had a great first day of school today! His special ed teacher told him that her goal for him this year is to ask for a break rather than leaving the room without asking when he's upset. I have been reminding him of this goal this week and going over good choices he can make.

Today he asked for a break! He later told his therapist that he was starting to get upset and thought about stomping out of the room. But he remembered that I told him that his goal was to take a break and decided to ask for a break! He was able to go to the sensory room to calm down rather than have a meltdown. I am so so proud of him! Great job Hayden!