Friday, August 15, 2014


Two years ago Hayden refused to hug his grandparents when they left at visits and holidays. He preferred high fives. Same for uncles, aunts, etc. He was too sensitive to touch and didn't want to be that close to anyone except his mom and dad. All his relatives know this and usually just ask for a high five from him when they leave.

Earlier this week, Joe came to me after picking up Hayden from school. He (Joe) had a big smile on his face. "Guess what happened!"

This week, one of Hayden's YMCA before & after care teachers had her last day. She was changing to a different school.  This is someone Hayden met 2 weeks ago. He sees her only an hour each day.
Joe asked Hayden to say goodbye to her.  Instead, Hayden went over and gave her a big hug.

After Joe told the story, he waited for me to say something.

"Um... that's good?" I said, not sure what was so exciting.

Joe said, "FUA!  He never hugs anyone! And he gave her a big hug without being asked!"

I melted into a smile. Because my boy had done something huge, and I didn't even notice. But Joe did. That makes it even more special.

Sometimes these little victories are missed, because they seem to happen more often and more quickly now that Hayden has been doing Biomed for so long. And they're so small that they're easy to miss in the busy day to day.

But compared to two years ago, this is a big deal. Hayden understood that his teacher was leaving, and wanted to say Goodbye.

This is what treating Autism looks like. This is how our kids get better.  Tiny victories that add up to big change.

#FU, Autism. He's one step closer today to saying Goodbye to you, too.

[Pictured: Rylie visiting her new preschool classroom for the first time. Hayden sat on the tiny couch and allowed her to bring him food that she had "cooked". He even pretended to eat it.]

"Hey, Hayden--  Smile!" 

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